The Mouthy Mermaid Says When God Opens The Door Look Out Because A Miracle Is Going To Happen!!!!!

Real Thelma, not pretend Thelma.

Good Morning Dear Readers,

Well, I have lots of things to talk about today.  First of all, my self imposed exile is about over.  I am feeling better about life in general.  The exile is not my style, I am a goer and a doer.  I was burnt out and tired.  AND IT’S HOT, UGH.

I went to see my dear friend Barbara Fredricks yesterday who is a fabulous therapist and spent quite a bit of time with her.

She wrote this book and it has helped me so much.  I am truly blessed and lucky to have so many wonderful loved ones.  Thank you.

My friends book is wonderful and so is she.

She had to remind me to use my toolbox.  My toolbox consists of self care, positive affirmations, meditation and prayer.  I was in such a funk I wasn’t using my tools.  So, she got me back on track.    And, I got my battery recharged on her wonderful energy table.

So I am feeling much better about life.  Back on track.  I do think when you lose a loved one you get some form of PTSD because I think I have it.

So, we have had 3 family functions in the last 3 weekends and I am pooped

This is a public domain picture because I learned a lesson about copy write.

and I think Mr. is too.  He would never admit it of course because he never complains.  He is a very manly type of guy and he works outside ever day. He is a phone pole guy, lineman.

Dear God.  And, I think we are going to have a party this weekend for the 4th.  I am never done.

And, here is my big news:  I saw a posting on Facebook about a month ago or so that our CBS local station was doing an investigative report about HEROIN in our city.  I was talking to my friend Natalie on Facebook Messenger at that point and I said “Do you think I should contact Jenna Wade ( She is the news person)  She said “YES.”  And I did and quite a bit of time went by.  And last Friday she messaged me and she is going to interview me today at 2.

I was pretty hesitant about doing this but after lots  discussion with my tribe and of course Mr.  Everyone thinks I should tell our story.  Who knows what or if she will even use it but I am doing it today.  Wish me luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

In my world I really feel like the more I talk about this topic, maybe I will help another family or another user.  You never know.  So, as I have been in such a nasty funk God Blew The Door Open for me.  Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  And maybe I will eventually get to some type of healing????

And I do have to say thank you to all the wonderful people who have been there for me and all the new wonderful people I have met on this journey. Sometimes I look at it in this way, God or the Universe put me here for a reason and maybe this is my reason.  Who knows.  Life Gives You Lessons, right?

Sending All My Love Today,

Thelma, The Mouthy Mermaid

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The Mouthy Mermaid talks About The Girdle Bathing Suit and Other Things Today!!!!!

Vacation a few years ago.

Good Morning Dear Readers,

Well, The Mouthy Mermaid is finally getting out of her mental funk.  Why was I in a mental funk who knows……I don’t…… but I know I am feeling better about life in general even though it’s about 114 degrees here in fabulous Tucson, Arizona.


This is how I felt in the new bathing suit.

So, I get we are aging women but REALLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  About a month or so ago Angel Girl were shopping at CostCo and they had really cute bathing suits for sale.  If you live in Tucson and have a pool a requirement is a closet of bathing suits because the chlorine eats up all that spandex.

So, we were looking at bathing suits and I picked one and I thought Angel Girl picked one, but she didn’t.  So, I buy a very cute bathing suit and it sat on the dresser for a few weeks because I really love my other Walmart cheap bathing suit and one day we were having people over and I  thought, hmmmm, I will wear my new bathing suit.

Well, putting on that bathing suit was like squeezing into a pair of the old days control top panty hose. I was thinking, really is this too tight, really should I take this back, really am I that FAT?  It was a miserable experience.  And I was dying laughing the entire time.  Finally, I got myself into this fancy new bathing suit and I thought, hmmmmmm?????  I’m going to take this back.  So, I go outside and Mr says “I love that suit, is it new?”  Hmmm.   It loosened up when I got in the pool.  Have I worn it again Hell NO.  Will I, maybe.

Who remembers these? OUCH

Why, do we as women feel we need to be thinner, cuter, sexier etc?  It has all been pounded in our heads by family, (mother) media, magazines, the doctor or WHATEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!  All of this makes us, WOMEN feel like we don’t make the cut, we are NOT GOOD ENOUGH, PRETTY ENOUGH, ETC.  You all get the idea.

As I was at dinner the other night with our family for our 7 year old granddaughter’s birthday, she went to reach for another roll and her mother almost had a heart attack.  I about had a heart attack and felt like saying “leave her alone, she is 7 and happy and healthy.”  This is how we lead our children into eating disorders.  Her mother is very skinny.  I was not that happy with her.

Besides, the girdle bathing suit all Mermaid life is going well.  We are staying as cool as possible, the animals and the plants are mostly alive.  Living in this heat is so oppressive I don’t even know what to say.

The Tucson desert. This pic is from Sonoita, Arizona. There are huge fires there right now.

So, today I will do what I did yesterday, spend the day in the pool under an umbrella not wearing my girdle bathing suit.  I just can’t go there.

And, I am going to HH with some old friends this evening.  I had to ask what HH ment when they invited me.  LOL, I am not an HH person but I am excited to catch up with some old friends.  BTW, HH means Happy Hour.  I think I will have Ice Tea.  I am not much of a drinker.

So, on this very hot day I am sending Mermaid love to all of you.  I would love to hear what ya all have to say about THE GIRDLE BATHING SUIT.

Have a happy, positive and fun day.

Love, Thelma

The Mouthy Mermaid



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The Mouthy Mermaid Talks About Life After Death

Good Morning Dear Readers,

As you can see from my title, Life After Death????  I don’t even know why I am writing about this today.  Why, I guess because it is constantly on my mind.

How do we get by?  How do we get through a death of a loved one?  About 10 years ago I lost my husband, he had been sick for a number of years, was it a shock or a surprise NO, was I sad and lost yes!!!!!  Did I make some crazy decisions, YES.  Am I OK, yes, now.

This death of Michael has totally rocked me!!!!!!!!!!!  It is constantly on my mind and in my soul.  Is this how it’s always going to be?  I don’t know.

Very weird things happen.  A few weeks ago, the doorbell rang and I answered the door, and a young man was outside and he said he was from Teen Challenge, Teen Challenge is a Christian based  drug abuse center and I think nation wide.  We chatted for a bit and he looked a lot like Michael.  I told him the Michael story and we prayed outside and he wrote his name down and asked if their group could add him to their nightly prayer list, of course I replied.  It was such a strange experience and a really warm feeling BECAUSE OF COURSE I TALKED TO MICHAEL MANY TIMES ABOUT TEEN CHALLENGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I truly believe God brought that kid to my house for a REASON or a LESSON.

Love and Blessings

I have really been in a weird, vague funk or something, I don’t really know what.  I have not wanted to interact much, I have been very low key, (not really my style), staying home and enjoying peace and quiet.  I think in this past year I have been a HUMAN DOING, NOT A HUMAN BEING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Aunt Rae)  I have been on a radio show about drugs, gotten his story on the front page of the newspaper, spoken to a few groups and met countless parents that have gone through the same thing.  I don’t even know how I meet these people, they just come to me in some way.  I think I am hot and tired and need rest!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  And REALLY I am kinda sick of this entire subject, too bad it is EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

On the other side of all of this, I have had a sinus infection for I really think about a year and last Monday the doctor put me on a new med and I am feeling so much better, I can finally hear out of my right ear.  She said there was so much fluid in my ear if it didn’t clear up I would have to have surgery on my ear.  Now I am not saying HUH to everyone.  Thank you God.

My next goal:  Getting our family, animals and plants through a weekend with the temps up to 114.  That is unbearable for me.  I really dislike the heat and I don’t love living in Arizona.  The dust is not a happy place for me.

And on a side note, my little, sweet Shih Tzu, Lovey has lost his mind.  We have added a desert tortoise to our family in a lovely habitat in the backyard.  Lovey is obsessed about him and spends most of the day

My sweet Lovey!!!!!!!!!!!

outside barking at him.  Last night he was so dirty he had to have a hose bath and he has never had a hose bath in his life.  He gets his baths from Pampered Paws because Lovey is a pampered spoiled boy.  He was a bit in shock from a hose bath.  Therefore he hasn’t been barking at the turtle today.  Hmmmm!!!!  Did he learn a lesson?

So, that’s my story and I’m sticking to it.  Really, I am feeling better and I am feeling better from writing all of this.   I guess!!!!!!

And to all my wonderful readers, Happy Father’s Day.  Have a wonderful weekend and live and love.  Eat the cake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PS  Sending love to Renee, I know she will understand all of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Thanks for Reading,

Love, Thelma, The Mouthy Mermaid



The Mouthy Mermaid talks About 20 Ways to get Through the Summer in Arizona

Good Morning Dear Readers,

As I am talking to ya all this morning, it’s not HOT yet, it’s 75.  I love 75, but as the week goes on it is going to get cooking, 111 by Sunday.  UGH.  But, yes it’s a dry heat!!!!  Whoever made that one up kills me.  Any way you look at it it’s HOT.  Here is my list on how to survive the HEAT in Arizona.

  1. Pretend you are a Mermaid.
  2. Go to the pool.

    New pool, new yard.
  3. Stay inside.
  4. Run your A/C so you don’t even care how much the bill is.
  5. Read a book.
  6. Take a nap.
  7. Binge watch Netflix.
  8. Don’t turn on the oven, because it’s like an oven outside.
  9. Go to the Mall, and I hate the Mall.
  10. Take an hour drive to the mountains.
  11. Drink water, drink water, drink water, drink water.
  12. Don’t watch the news, it will just make you hotter.
  13. Go to a church to meditate.

    Vacation a few years ago.
  14. Go to the grocery store.
  15. Order take out.
  16. Look on line and plan a pretend trip where it’s cool.
  17. Fool around on Facebook.
  18. Do your errands early.
  19. Don’t cook.
  20. Write a blog.

So that’s my list and I am sticking to it.  How do ya all get through the heat??????  Please share your tips with me because I feel like summer here is the most oppressive state of mind imaginable.

Sabino Canyon in the Spring

I do have a trip planned but not until August, I may die of heat by August.  I am looking forward to our summer Monsoons.  Can’t wait to have rain.

And, life in general.  Mermaid life is just fine, very quiet and low key and I guess that is what I need right now.  I don’t really have an answer for any of that.  I am OK and OK is OK.



Happy Tuesday,

Love, Thelma, The Mouthy Mermaid

PS  Congrats to Steve Kerr, a hometown BB player.  He is starting to remind me of Lute!!!!!!!!!