The Mouthy Mermaid Talks About Healing Today……

Dear Readers,

Good Morning and as always thank you for all the love and reading my blog.

Well, if you have been reading and following, you know that I was on the news sharing my son’s story of addiction.

I think you should be able to see it from this link or you can go to

It was a total trip!!!!!!!   So many people reached out to me to say thank you for being so blunt, if it’s one thing I am is direct, usually.  The story got my point across.  I also got pics from Michael’s HS yearbooks that were on the news and most of all they keep showing the story.

The reason I did this:  One life at a time, one family at a time:  A young women reached out to me and I know she is a reader and thanked me because her sister listened to her when she told her about Michael’s story and got off the opioids.  She is now on her way to wellness.

So, all of that aired on Thursday, Friday my phone was blowing up and Saturday I was a speaker on a radio show.  Hmmmmm.  Maybe I will take this story to Dr. Phil, I did go on his website and fill out the information.

AND, a really interesting thing happened.  I reached out to Michael’s wife, we have not spoken since the day he died and she came over and we had some sort of healing.  She is still very sad and angry and can’t move out of all that.  But, at least we talked and I feel no more anger in my heart.  Thank you God.

Needless to say, I was exhausted yesterday.  I took a nice long nap and really just woke up.  Good for me.

Today, I am going to spend time with one of my favorite people and I am looking forward to that, Aunt Rae Jacob.

So, that’s my story of the day.  This is a week I am taking care of me:  My shoulder isn’t in good shape and I have an appointment with a shoulder doctor, YUCK, so we will see how that goes.

And, I am still looking at the vacuum in my living room and my shoulder is saying NO so I will listen I guess!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Today is a short blog but I did want to touch base and tell you all my story.


Thelma, The Mouthy Mermaid


PS:  Mr is a trip about how supportive he is about all of my going public.  He is pretty private……I love Mr.


And don’t forget Barbara’s book:

A great book.

The Mouthy Mermaid Talks About Vacation and All Kinds of Stuff Today

Good Morning Dear Readers,

New hair do Thelma

The Mouthy Mermaid has been MIA for a short while because WHY, we were on a trip.  Our trip to San Diego was the most fabulous thing I could imagine.

In my world vacation=renewal of the soul and spirit.  I love seeing different places, eating different food and generally having a different experience.  Well, we had all of that.  Mr. has never allowed himself this until he met me.  Hmmmmm.  He was always busy working and being a single dad and raising 2 great boys.  Now he understands VACATION.

Seals in La Jolla. Mr tripped out on them.

We did all the usual San Diego things.  Pacific Beach, Mission Beach, Little Italy, Horn Blower Cruise, Deep Sea Fishing, La Jolla and more.  Today, I am doing laundry, yesterday was grocery shopping and getting the house together.

And, my animals, I was thrilled to see them when I got home.  And best of all I am going back in 21 days.

Vacation for me is also a time for REFLECTION:  I like to look out at the waves and reflect about LIFE, how is my life going?  Do I have peace?  The state of the world?  UGH!!!  And, what’s next.  Who knows.

The hospitality Angel Girl and her dear husband and lovely daughter showed us was so wonderful and special.  Angel Girl and I go way back from a time when we were children and our families were friends.  It’s really interesting and a blessing that I have so many friends that go way back in time.

Love Angel Girl. Thank you.

And, that brings me to my next topic.  Being physical age 60…….not mental age……I am still healthy, strong, and can keep it going.  Thank you God for this gift.  Being 60 for me is also a time for reflection:  Mostly how did I get to this age and what the heck happened.  I think that’s called LIFE.

Crystal Pier on Pacific Beach.

Truly I have had so many gifts and love from God, The Universe and everyone.  It wasn’t easy for me to get to this point.  I had my share of not so wonderful men pass through.  Not so smart financial decisions, Ok, it’s only money.  And, then came my year I spent at a place in Tucson called Emerge Center for Domestic Violence and I GOT IT.  I really worked hard on my therapy, because I really needed to know how to not make the decisions I had been making.  AND I DID IT.  I GOT IT.

The first time the therapist talked to be about BOUNDARIES, I was thinking HUH??????  As a Co I had no idea what she was talking about BUT I LEARNED QUICKLY.  And, I learned so many things about me, about what was acceptable and what wasn’t…………..I didn’t understand any of that.

Terri R., sent me an interesting email last night and the question was, How do you know your recovery is working or something like that?  For me it’s:  Finding some kind of peace, balance, having boundaries with people who want to suck the life out of me, doing good deeds for others, taking care of me, taking care of us and enjoying life as I see it.  That is how I know I am doing OK, oh yes prayer and daily meditation.


So, thank you all for reading, thank you all for your love and support and thank you for being out there in cyber land.

All my love,

Thelma, The Mouthy Mermaid

PS:  Orange Man is killing me.  I didn’t hear, read, or look at anything about his crazy circus for the entire time I was gone so it was truly a vacation 🙂

The WH circus gives me anxiety.


And remember my friend Barbara’s Book:

A great book.

The Mouthy Mermaid Talks About The News Interview

Good Morning Dear Readers,

Sending peace and love to everyone this morning……It is early here and very lovely because it rained all night.  In Arizona we love rain!!!!!!!

Jenna Lee from Tucson channel 13. The interview was great.

Well, last week was the NEWS interview.  I was so relaxed, it was very weird.  So, I woke up that morning and Jenna Lee, the news person asked me to get some pictures and other Michael stuff out so she could look at it.  The picture from his kindergarten really did me in, she loved that pic.  So, they got here and the photographer set up all these crazy lights and her and I just talked in our living room.  Her story is going to be about how doctors overperscribe.  She told me there are 300 doctors in this city who have issues with their medical licenses because of this and they are still practicing.  HMMMMMMM…………………………………………  Enough said about all of this because we all know the end of this story.

Life is busy right now but nice and fun and low key.  Hahahahaha for a change I really don’t have much to say.

Mr. and I are getting ready for our trip to San Diego and today I am going to book a fishing charter for us.  I can’t wait to have nice weather and see some water that isn’t in my yard even though my new yard is beautiful.

And I want to talk about Bob for a moment…….Bob is our new addition to our family, because of course I need more pets and of course more pets with special needs.  YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME.

Meet Bob

My dear friend, the lovely Miss M knew I had been wanting a Desert Tortoise and one day she called me and said her husband had found one and did I want it.  Well of course I can’t say NO to animals.  So, we meet at Home Depot because she says Bob needs special plants in his enclosure and yes he does and I get Bob and plants and we move on.  And I am having a good time feeding Bob, kale, watermelon, strawberries lettuce and the usual stuff you would feed a Desert Tortoise.  Well, after looking at Bob and looking a my friends Desert Tortoise, Bob doesn’t look like them.  So of course I dig around on the internet and Bob is an African Spur Tortoise.  You know those huge tortoises you see in the zoo, well guess what that’s what Bob is and of course Bob has to have a special diet and all this business including daily

Lovey has issues with Bob.

soaking.  Dear God.  On Friday I had to go to the feed store and buy him hay.  Now I have hay in my kitchen in a bag because I don’t even know where to put it.  but, he loves the hay pellets and that is that.  We really enjoy having Bob.  All of us except the dog. Hehehehehe.

And today, I am spending time with my friend Barbara Fredricks who is an addiction and family therapist to help her with her website and whatever else she needs.  Monday is a Barbara day.  

So, I don’t have any earth shattering news to share today and I guess that is great 🙂

And, one more thing:  on Saturday we went to a very fancy cactus farm to buy some cactus.  It was so cool, they had about 10 huge greenhouses of cactus.  It was quite a learning experience.

Check out the link, we had a great time there but it was so HOT I felt like I was going to die and it cost big fat $$$$$  and we bought some cool stuff.

Well there you go:  All is good in Mermaid land.  Getting ready for vacation and Thank You God for a vacation.

Peace and Love,

Thelma, The Mouthy Mermaid



PS: Mr Trump has the lowest rating of any President 36% except Gerald Ford.  What do you say to all of that??????

Don’t forget Barbara’s book or refer it to someone who needs it.  I did this weekend.

A great book.


The Mouthy Mermaid Shares Her Recent Blessings, Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good Morning My Dear Readers,

As always I am sending my love and appreciation to all of you!!!!!!

Yesterday was a cosmic day and a day filled with blessings and I’m going to tell you all about it.

Love and Blessings

Most of this summer, I have been floating in the pool, looking at the sky and trying to figure out what’s next for me, hmmmmm, that’s always a great question in the contemplation of life, what’s next?  Well, I have been praying and manifesting WHAT’S NEXT.  Well, as usual God answers.

  1. The news anchor from our local channel 13, CBS is coming today at 1 to interview me about Michael’s story.  I am not even nervous.  We are going to sit outside by the pool and visit.  She has asked me to share pictures and all kinds of stuff.  I don’t have much as his wife refused to give me anything but I do have some stuff but mostly I have memories.  I really trust her as she as won an Emmy and her story got the attention of Dr. Phil.  So, I am ready to talk to her.  This story will be aired on 8/3 on the 10:00 news as part of an investigative report on the drug problem in Tucson.  AND YES, I GOT MY HAIR DONE 🙂  I told Mr this morning, we may have to set the alarm to watch LOL.
  2. Some of you may know sometimes I do elderly care.  I do companion care only for people I know and like.  Well, my lady who I have had for 1 year recently went into assisted living and I still go once a week but I have lost a good chuck of change.  It’s interesting how these elderly people come to me.  I get calls all the time but I only do it if I feel it is right.  Yesterday, a dear friend called me about helping her brother, who used to work for my dad and I accepted the job.  I am pretty excited as I got a 289.00 electric bill and we are going on a trip AND THIS IS HOW I GIVE BACK.  So interesting like Aunt Rae says how we are all connected.  More on this later.
  3. I do marketing for people, lots of internet stuff or blogs or whatever to help them get more exposure.  Well, I hate to check my email, mail or phone messages.  I don’t know why, it’s stressful for me.  So yesterday, I see I have 60+ emails so I decide to look at them.  I have an email from a guy who writes travel books and cook books and he is a referral from a friend and he wants me to help him.  So, I did some research on him and he is a retired CIA person who also owns his own security consulting business.  WHAT!!!!!  We are going to talk on Friday.  CIA, what a trip.  I hope he likes me.  I am not exactly CIA material.
  4. We decided to sell my car as it is old, needs  work, and we have too many cars.  So, Mr and I go to the car wash  to get it cleaned up before I post it on CL.  I was chatting with the car wash manager about the car and told him I wanted to sell it.  Well, he called me and came over last week and looked at it and asked me if he could bring his mechanic over and they all came over yesterday and went over the car and so on.  And we made and deal and they wanted to pray and we did and today we meet at the bank at 3.  I know after all of that they will show up, because of course now the guy across the street wants to buy it.
  5. And all of that was yesterday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So, moral of the story, be positive, put out good energy, help others and good things happen, right?????

It finally rained here, thank you God, a huge rain, with lightening and wind and thunder.  It was fabulous and really cooled us down.  I hope I won’t have a 289.00 electric bill this month and sometimes I don’t even care as long as I am not hot, the dogs are not hot and Mr isn’t hot.  Mr is working tons of overtime right now.  I woke up at 4:30 just to see him this morning.  This is the season the telephone poles go down.

And for the news story…….I have been blessed with the ability to use my voice, my voice to talk about Michael’s story in hopes it will help another user, another family or something.  I am using my voice for all the families I have met who have also suffered such a tragic loss.  You parents also keep coming to me like my elderly people.  I don’t know how or why.

So, I am busy today, busy getting ready for the news lady.  I cleaned on Sunday so I really don’t have much to do except be busy.  We are doing the interview outside by the pool next to my holy garden.  I have to pray and meditate today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Really not kidding.

So, say a prayer that these people really do meet me at the bank at 3.  Of course they didn’t want to leave a deposit but we all held hands and prayed so I guess that’s a deposit.

Think about me today at 1:00 MST.   I will be thinking about all of you.

And, if you know any families struggling with addiction issues remember my friend Barbara Fredricks and her book, Addictions and Family Healing.  It is really hard for me to read this because it could have been my story or any of our story.

Sending Mermaid Love to All,

Love, Thelma, The Mouthy Mermaid

The Mouthy Mermaid Says, “So Much Going On and So Much to Be Grateful For!”

Tales From A Mouthy Mermaid

Good Morning Dear Readers,

As my title says, “So much going on and yes, I am grateful!”  We had a really fun party on Saturday celebrating our Freedom.  And, yes in these times it’s a difficult concept for me.  I really try to stay away from negative news.  I did have a person here wanting to bait me and argue with me about how wonderful his president is and I told him “This is not up for discussion.”  Mr. had already warned me about his friend.  As I have always said through out this political time, everyone has a right to their opinion.

This is a public domain picture because I learned a lesson about copy write.

Well, next:  Our local CBS new affiliate is coming over tomorrow at noon to interview me about Michael’s story of addiction.  I call it “The Highway To Hell.”  After it’s all done and…

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